What Do You Wanna DO With Your Life?

Whenever I hear this question, I pause for a few mental drumbeats. And then my mind instinctively shouts: "I WANNA ROCK!"

Anyone else?

Twisted Sister's "I Wanna Rock" came out in 1984. I was in second grade and already completely hooked on hair bands. I didn’t know what “rocking” meant exactly but it sounded flashy, energetic and fun. At the time, I was pretty sure it meant becoming an MTV VJ.

Fun Fact: We share a birthday!

But eventually, the question got real.

The first time most of us face it is in our teens, when we’re asked to decide what comes after high school. I chose journalism. That led me into public relations, and from there into a full and successful career—fast-paced, high-pressure, and, for a long time, I couldn't imagine anything else.

I built something solid. I grew and achieved. I had a family. I traveled. I saw lots of live music. I lived a full life on paper… until something shifted.

For the first time in decades, I began to want something different. In the small quiet moments between doing things, I realized I had lost the ability to BE. To savor. To enjoy. I didn't know how to turn my brain off. I didn't feel grateful - I felt like a machine - and I knew something was wrong with that.

That question came back, but this time it sounded different:

What am I doing with my life? 

What do I want now?

And the honest answer was, I wanted something different. Something deeper. I was ready for personal growth and change.

I didn’t have a clean, immediate answer as to what that meant, but I had a lot of questions. So I got curious. I read books and listened to podcasts. I explored my spirituality. I went deeper into my yoga practice and learned there is so much more to it than stretching sore muscles. I began to look at my life more honestly.

Over time, a different path started to emerge for me. Not all at once and not perfectly. But clearly enough to make some moves.

Here’s what I know now:

• You don’t answer this question once.

• You answer it over and over again, at different ages, in different stages, across different seasons of your life.

And your answers are supposed to change. That’s not a sign you’re lost. It’s a sign you’re evolving.

Maybe you’re not trying to blow up your life. Maybe you just know something needs to be different. A decision or a direction. A way of showing up that actually fits who you are now.

If that’s where you are, this question isn’t a problem to solve. It’s an invitation to pay attention.

And sometimes, it helps to have someone sit with you in that space to sort through what's real, what matters, and what comes next.